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princeburrito:

zubat:

Regardless of it being consensual, BDSM sexualizes violence [normally against women] and you honestly can’t argue that.

I respectfully disagree. 

While I understand how some could argue that BDSM reinforces misogyny, and eroticizes power and violence, I believe that between two consenting adults, the interpersonal dynamic of a BDSM relationship empowers both the dominant and the submissive (regardless of gender). 

And it has to be consenting if it’s BDSM otherwise it’s just abuse. I know many women who enjoy BDSM because it validates their sexual desires and sexual inclinations, and there’s nothing wrong with having a shared fantasy that can be enacted by two (or more) willing people. 

But that’s just my two cents, feel free to feel how you feel; it’s valid either way :3

You just proved my point. If you take away the consent, it’s abuse. 

I’m not saying it’s not empowering to the women who partake in it. I question the men who partake in it as a “dom” simply because we need to evaluate where their desire for dominance over women stems from (and most of the time, it comes from misogynistic tendencies, but that’s a different discussion altogether and I’m not going to discuss that on this post). I’m not saying there isn’t more to BDSM than violence or power. I’m not saying I have a problem with BDSM or the people who participate in it. 

I’m just saying that BDSM sexualizes violence, which it does, and you can’t argue that it doesn’t. 

My two cents. I have several friends in the BDSM community and though I admit that I no longer have that as one of my fetishes, there was a time when I did, though I was always on the fringes, not deep into the hardcore stuff. But I did learn some things, even if there’s a lot I still don’t really understand. 

Yes if you take away consent it could be considered just abuse, but at that moment is also ceases to be BDSM. BDSM REQUIRES consent. BDSM is ultimately a trust exercise between the sub and dom and an exercise in control and finding boundaries. It’s not about abuse for abuses sake. 

I would also put forward that BDSM does NOT sexualize violence. BDSM is a refuge for those for whom violence is already sexualized. These two sentences do NOT have the same meaning. 

I would also note that in my remaining ties with that community, most of the men I know who are part of it… are subs, not doms or a mix of the two depending on the activity at hand.

I think this entire argument postulated by the OP and responder needs more actual knowledge, research and understanding attached to it. And I include myself on that part because like I said, I still have friends in the BDSM community and I was on the fringes of it for a while after my sexual assault. But I still don’t entirely understand everything about it.

And i definitely don’t think that a blanket statement like “BDSM sexualizes violence” is fair or true, and definitely comes from someone with little to no actual experience or knowledge of the subject to which they are speaking.

Okay, but if you say ‘if you take away consent it’s abuse’ then isn’t that actually making the point that the activity is healthy? Take boxing verses punching someone in the face randomly.  These two have very little in common, despite a strikingly similar appearance.   Or sex verse rape, the ‘only’ difference is consent, and it’s a HELL of a difference.

I’m not saying that people *can’t* have a problematic bdsm relationship or sex life, but I don’t think it’s inherent.   I do think that due to society conditioning it behooves M/f couples to take extra steps to insure consent.  Of course I also think that F/m couples have other issues they need to pay extra attention to (please see the do-me-sub mentality that often seems to run with male entitlement  of female sexuality).  

Also in my experience the primary motivation in most bdsm that I’ve been exposed to isn’t violence, it’s power exchange and/or a desired sensation, which can be either mental or physical. To say bdsm is ‘about’ violence is to pull a very small aspect and make it far more important than it actually is.  

The big difference, though, is that bdsm done correctly is an amazingly *mindful* experience.  The communication, both before, during, and after, not only with your partner(s), but maybe even more importantly with yourself and your own body, knowing yourself, your needs, and being able to verbalize that and work toward those ends?  Those are skills that I think more people should have in their relationships.  This is the polar opposite of abuse.

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misslustrous:

Hey guys, this is Kendall Jones, she’s a cheerleader from Texas who spends her free time slaughtering endangered species including (but not limited to): lions, cheetahs,elephants, zebras, hippos, giraffes etc. Her actions are not only disgusting superficially (as you can see the bloodlust in her pictures) but she’s hunting endangered species and pushing more and more of them closer to extinction. She does this in hopes of getting a TV show, followers on Twitter, and because she’s straight insane.
 PLEASE HELP STOP HER BY SIGNING THIS PETITION.
YOU CAN SIGN IT IF YOU LIVE IN ANY COUNTRY, IT’S VERY QUICK AND IT WON’T ASK YOU TO VERIFY YOUR EMAIL OR ANYTHING. PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS & EVEN IF THE PETITION HITS 50K PLEASE KEEP SIGNING.

you guys know how much i love animals please sign this. please please please sign it. 

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That smile on her face makes me want to vomit!

OKAY I have some issues here, and maybe I don’t know all the background with her but… why pick on one women who is legally hunting?   I feel like people are just using ‘she’s a perky teenage cheerleader’ to stereotype her.   
It’s actually kinda sexist, men do this ALL the time, but we’re going to pick and shame one of the few women who do it?  That’s not helping anyone.
Also, from the looks of this, and I’m not an expert, none of these animals are actually endangered.  Many are rare and probably classified as threatened or near endangered, but that’s a different classification.
Rare animal hunts in Africa have been going on for a long time, and as much as we may dislike seeing some of these animals killed, my understanding is that it is all part of their conservation efforts.   For example, areas with lions often will carefully decide how many permits to sell every year to keep the male population down and the herds health.   Many smaller countries also use the significant funds from these controlled hunts to fund internal programs that help both the people and the local wildlife.
Bottom line, I think this weird reaction of trying to keep her out of Africa is useless, if she doesn’t buy the permits someone else will, there’s often lotteries, so banning her does nothing.  Two, it’s strikes of sexism, singling out a woman for ridiculous in a predominantly male activity.  Three, it does nothing to prevent animal cruelty, there are way worse thing we do to animals (See factory raised meat).  Four, it has an edge of weird colonialism, where ‘we’ as people outside of Africa, want to tell Africans how to run their business.   

ugly:

narcotic:

misslustrous:

Hey guys, this is Kendall Jones, she’s a cheerleader from Texas who spends her free time slaughtering endangered species including (but not limited to): lions, cheetahs,elephants, zebras, hippos, giraffes etc. Her actions are not only disgusting superficially (as you can see the bloodlust in her pictures) but she’s hunting endangered species and pushing more and more of them closer to extinction. She does this in hopes of getting a TV show, followers on Twitter, and because she’s straight insane.

 PLEASE HELP STOP HER BY SIGNING THIS PETITION.

YOU CAN SIGN IT IF YOU LIVE IN ANY COUNTRY, IT’S VERY QUICK AND IT WON’T ASK YOU TO VERIFY YOUR EMAIL OR ANYTHING. PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS & EVEN IF THE PETITION HITS 50K PLEASE KEEP SIGNING.

you guys know how much i love animals please sign this. please please please sign it. 

please sign this

That smile on her face makes me want to vomit!

OKAY I have some issues here, and maybe I don’t know all the background with her but… why pick on one women who is legally hunting?   I feel like people are just using ‘she’s a perky teenage cheerleader’ to stereotype her.   

It’s actually kinda sexist, men do this ALL the time, but we’re going to pick and shame one of the few women who do it?  That’s not helping anyone.

Also, from the looks of this, and I’m not an expert, none of these animals are actually endangered.  Many are rare and probably classified as threatened or near endangered, but that’s a different classification.

Rare animal hunts in Africa have been going on for a long time, and as much as we may dislike seeing some of these animals killed, my understanding is that it is all part of their conservation efforts.   For example, areas with lions often will carefully decide how many permits to sell every year to keep the male population down and the herds health.   Many smaller countries also use the significant funds from these controlled hunts to fund internal programs that help both the people and the local wildlife.

Bottom line, I think this weird reaction of trying to keep her out of Africa is useless, if she doesn’t buy the permits someone else will, there’s often lotteries, so banning her does nothing.  Two, it’s strikes of sexism, singling out a woman for ridiculous in a predominantly male activity.  Three, it does nothing to prevent animal cruelty, there are way worse thing we do to animals (See factory raised meat).  Four, it has an edge of weird colonialism, where ‘we’ as people outside of Africa, want to tell Africans how to run their business.   

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RUTH. BADER. GINSBURG. 

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All the Ginsburg love.  Is it just me or is she getting snarkier as she gets older? 

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… it’s so true….

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Why do men think women are angry just on their period?

I’m angry all the time. Get the fuck away from me.

That’s our secret… we’re always angry.  

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